how you see it

it is not about your day, it is about how you see it. attitude is an essential thing, if you want to lead a happy life, and who does not, right? i doubted, whether there was a point of telling this simple short story, but in the end i think it is. it really is! why? because on a daily basis something goes wrong. sometimes we can do something about it, we can somehow change the situation, but sometimes - we cannot. what is left? our attitude, of course! the day i want to tell you about was meant to be bad - i had to do what i was afraid to do and there was a lot of work and the weather was horrible, but it worked out well, because i laughed through it all. it is a great life lesson for me, and this is why i find it worthy of sharing with you.

on love for cinema

have you been reading my posts for some time? well, then you are most probably aware of me being a fan of cinema. i love going there. the whole process of actually comitting and watching a whole movie at home is not that easy for me, bu-u-ut going to the cinema is different. if there were options, i would go to the cinema way more often than i do now (and that is a couple of times a month). i mention cinema here, here and here. do not be lazy and check out those posts too. what if you missed one of them? ;)

i decided to write this post because in the last two days i went to the cinema twice and i was so happy about it. i did not like old cinemas in kiev before and i preferred going to the modern ones, but i changed my mind this weekend. on sunday i watched "life" - a movie about dennis stock and james dean. it was shown in a small room with about five rows and six-eight seats in each of them. although it was not that comfortable, it felt special and cosy, so i came back there yesterday to watch a movie, that i have been trying to see for more than a month now, - 'les deux amis". both of the movies were exactly what i was expecting them to be and what i hoped for. the only thing i was sorry about - not being able to watch them in original.

celebrating women

o-o-oh my! i was on a subway train yesterday in the morning and opened twitter to find out about #LEMONADE - a visual album by beyonce, which does not really need a presentation, as you have already listened to it, i am sure. i had to listen to it, i had to see it, i had to experience it myself. the day in my thoughts was all about it. in the evening i watched it and emotions overflowed me. this is art - raw and real, real and raw. fascinating, spectacular, unforgettable. for me, as a person, for whom "words are essential" every single word on that album is as valuable as a song or a whole album itself. watching the album is so much more than just listening to the songs separately. everything you see, everything you hear is genial.

what i love about beyonce, and there is not doubt that i am not alone here, is that she celebrates women; she reminds you about the power you have and gently pushes you to celebrate yo-self. i love it, i admire it. you listen to a song and you are as excited to be a woman as one could be. you are happy and proud. you are bold. there are three phases of thinking afterwards: i am powerful, i can do anything > uhm, yeah, maybe, but i won`t be ever like her > wait, this is not what she wants me to feel like, this is not what she thinks herself. she is sure that she is number one (despite all insecurities and reasons that may appear worthy to see yourself as worthless) and she works hard as hell to be as good as one could only be. this is exactly what she wants me to do too. she wants to empower me, she shares her experience and knowledge with me to make me realize we are all in the same position, so it depends on us only what happens next.

i knew right away i had to write about it, then i had doubts - everyone would too and i did not want to do what the rest was doing. however, the more i listened, the clearer it became that i could not ignore it, i could not just enjoy the album. i had to write about it. i had to once again point out how powerful and strong women are (love is what makes us so), how proud i am to be one of them. i have felt this way since ten or eleven years old when i read "gone with the wind", saw scarlett o`hara as my role model and decided that i wanted to be just like her - i wanted to cope with whatever i had to, i wanted to manage it all despite all the challenges and pain. the older i get, the more i see that women are magical creatures, they are capable of things impossible for men and not only in a big picture kind of thing, on a daily basis too. however some struggle more than others, for some it is harder to find a voice and power inside, some need extra help and nurturing. this is what all of us are here for - to support and inspire each other. this is exactly what beyonce is doing, and i am grateful for it, just like hundreds of thousands of women around the world are. we are lucky to have her, we are lucky to have each other and we are lucky to have ourselves. we are lucky to be women and we should make the best out of it. let`s celebrate women, let`s celebrate each and one of us. 

imma keep on runnin`cause a winner don`t quit on themselves, - let this be the motto of your life, girl.

cheer up

(текст на русском - ниже)

winter is the most challenging time to bear for almost everyone. of course, for some it is a time of vacation and travelling, so there is a reason to be excited before and after the trip, but for most of us it is simply a time when it is freezing outside. holidays are over, and now we have to make it to spring. so what do we do? today i will tell you about a couple of little things that i do to cheer myself up and feel better. here is the plan: 

• put on something you really like. one of the main winter difficulties for me is that i cannot wear what i want. for me outfits are crucially important, and it is very-very hard to keep this system going when it is minus thirteen outside (or even more) and you are frozen all the time, no matter how many layers you wear. this may sound like a silly problem, but to me it really is an issue. i have a need to wear what i feel like wearing exactly right now, but it is impossible. so what do i do? i wear this outfit or its part at home. especially in the moments when my mood is low and i feel like i cannot stand this winter anymore and i want it to end NOW, but i also realize that there is about a month and a half or even more of cold and snow waiting ahead and there is nothing i can do about it. so i put on my outfit and enjoy it! it may sound crazy to you, but i am telling you that it is not(!);

• turn on some music. in autumn i heard a song by seinabo sey and i fell in love with both  girl`s voice and her songs. they are so energetic, that as soon as i hear the beginning, i feel an extreme desire to do things or just dance;

• make a cup of tea with milk and honey. yes, i have already mentioned that i drink a lot of tea, A LOT. and i really like drinking black tea with milk. in winter i add honey and it is delicious. so not only it tastes really good, but it also makes me feel much better. try it!;

• open tumblr.com and forget about the rest of the world. looking at beautiful pictures makes me forget about everything and just enjoy. usually after about ten-twenty minutes on tumblr i feel very excited about the world, and i am kind of ready to fight through this winter cold and happily make it to spring. 

or you can just work really hard and then you will have no time to whine and feel sorry for yourself. sometimes you just have to be really busy to feel fine. now i have to run, and i wish you a lovely day! 

p.s. bonus option - read, read, read. i do not remember a day when reading did not save me from a bad mood. 

зима - время, пережить которое нелегко почти всем. конечно, для кого-то это время отпуска и путешествий, а потому есть повод радоваться до и после поездки, но для большинства это просто период, когда на улице жуткий мороз. праздники закончились, и теперь нам нужно дождаться весну. так что же делать? сегодня я хочу рассказать о некоторых мелочах, которые я делаю для того, чтобы подбодрить себя и чувствовать себя лучше! план таков:

• надень что-то, что тебе очень нравится. одна из основных зимних сложностей для меня заключается в том, что я не могу надевать то, что хочу. для меня одежда - существенно важна. а наряжаться, когда ты мерзнешь вне зависимости от того, сколько на тебе слоев одежды, просто невозможно. это может прозвучать как глупая проблема, но для меня она очень даже серьезная. у меня есть потребность надевать именно то, что мне хочется надеть конкретно сейчас, но это невозможно. так что же я делаю? я надеваю желаемый наряд или его часть дома. так я поступаю особенно в те моменты, когда у меня плохое настроение, и, когда кажется, что я больше не могу терпеть зиму, когда хочется, чтобы она закончилась прямо сейчас, но при этом я понимаю, что впереди меня ждет еще минимум полтора месяца морозов и снега, и я ничего не могу с этим сделать. итак, я надеваю что-то классное и наслаждаюсь. возможно, это звучит дико, но я говорю тебе, что это совершенно не так(!);

• включи музыку. осенью я услышала песню seinabo sey и влюбилась и в голос этой девушки, и в её песни. они настолько энергичные, что как только я слышу начало, тут же появляется сильное желание что-то делать или просто танцевать;
• сделай чашку чая с молоком и медом. да, я уже упоминала, что пью много чая, МНОГО. и мне очень нравится черный чай с молоком. зимой я добавляю в него мед, и получается очень вкусно. кроме того, он помогает мне чувствовать себя лучше. проверь сам(а)!;

• открой tumblr.com. просмотр красивых фотографий заставляет меня забыть обо всем на свете и просто наслаждаться. обычно мне хватает десяти-двадцати минут на tumblr, чтобы почувствовать восторг от того, сколько прекрасного есть в этом мире, и кажется, я уже готова к тому, чтобы пережить зимний мороз и счастливо дожить до весны! 

или же ты можешь просто много работать, и тогда у тебя не останется времени на то, чтобы ныть и жалеть себя. иногда для того, чтобы хорошо себя чувствовать, нужно просто занять себя делом. теперь мне нужно бежать, а тебе я желаю хорошего дня!

п.с. бонусный вариант - читай, читай, читай. не помню такого дня, когда чтение не спасло меня от плохого настроения.

 

images taken from tumblr.com